So I was on Facebook a couple of weeks ago (isn't it awful how such things just take over your social life, ugh) and saw an old high school acquaintance that had an account, so I happily clicked the 'add' button, thoroughly expecting her to add me, to want to catch up, etc.
Imagine my shock when that didn't happen. Actually, she outright ignored me. How do I know this? It's been a couple of weeks, she's been on Facebook since, and talking up a storm with mutual friends that have added me... so you can come to only one conclusion, don't you think?
I'll admit that at first, I was really hurt. It's been nearly 20 years since I've seen this person, and I'll admit that we weren't buddy-buddy then... but you'd think after 20 years that you'd be over whatever preconceived notions you might have about a person. And I'll admit that for a brief moment, I wanted to really be childish and air my grievances over Facebook airwaves - but then I realized it's petty. Not to mention a candidate for Passive-Aggressive Notes, heh. So I stopped and thought about it, and in retrospect, I'm glad I did.
I figure it this way - if this, uh, person is carrying some sort of grudge (though for what, fuck if I know) for this long... is this someone I really want to know in the first place? I've been working hard to eliminate toxic people from my life... and wouldn't she be one of them in this case? There are people on Facebook that I once knew... that I choose not to add, because they brought me nothing but pain, heartache, toxicity, upheaval. There's no point in adding more, even if it is someone that I once knew, even briefly. I have no need or desire to add people just for the sake of adding them - at least with everyone on my list, I can honestly say they're either good friends or I know them in person. Most people with 300, 400, 500 'friends' can't say that.
So, thank you, acquaintance-who-shall-remain-unnamed that didn't add me on Facebook. I'm actually happy that you didn't, now that I think about it. You see, this allows me to be the better person of the two of us. This allows me to acknowledge the fact that I'm not the person that I was 20 years ago, that I reached out to you, and you were immature enough to not accept that friendship. For all of that... I'll say thank you to any future people that don't add me, that'll go for you all as well. It just makes me look better than you, and since I already am better than you, your actions confirm it. Thanks!
P.S. I'm not too good to say this - your baby is probably the ugliest thing I've ever seen. Misshapen head, misshapen face. Ugh. For the love of Christ, keep that thing inside your house. I'm serious.
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*lol* about the baby. I friend requested some people that I worked with @ CUSA and they didn't respond, either. Doesn't phase me, though, b/c maybe they just don't want to talk or maybe my memories of our communication and acquaintanceship are different than their versions. I was friended by someone that apparently I went to college with in GA (small college) but I don't remember her. I added her anyway but maybe she remembers me and I just don't remember her. I could have just as easily ignored the invite and meant nothing by it!
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